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And Today I was Called an Intellectual Whore

Today I was called a intellectual whore. I was told that all i want to do is intellectually screw people because what I like most about people are their ideas, experiences and thoughts. I have shown little regard for emotions, and sentimentality and for the UMPTH time this year, I find myself saddened by the loss of a friend.

Here's his top 10 of most (im)memorable quotes:
1. "You're like Sex in the City, minus the sex." [Mindless stupidity is the implication]
2. "I am a warm person. You're not"
3. [paraphrase] I am a very sensitive person. I can't have you constantly hurting my feelings.
4. "I don't respect you"
5. "I am a generous person"
6. "We can't be friends, Sadia."
7. "You are emotionally crippled"
8. "What you need is a wall."
9. "I don't mean to hurt you."
10. "You're an intellectual whore."

And the best question of today, and of the week perhaps, is when Rayad asked Sadia, would you marry yourself?

Why I would Marry Myself:
1. Intelligence and good open communication, eagerness to articulate things, means problems are more readily resolved
2. The smallest, seemingly insigificant things make me happy; e.g. seeing clouds in the sky or finding a $3 in my jeans when I'm doing laundry. I seem to be perpetually excited by little gestures, like when someone remembers my last name. Or if someone can tell me exactly where I lost my train of thought.
3. I have an eagerness to please others, a willingness to build based on shared future vision.
4. I am a Muslim.
5. I can construct a good argument, and list reasons why I am right.
6. I'm cute and bubbly.
7. I am practical.
8. I want to be just like my parents.
9. I am laid back, able to diffuse a tense situation.
10. I enjoy making others laugh.

This is a good list.

Comments

  1. Anonymous11/23/2005

    good question

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  2. Anonymous11/25/2005

    That question -- Rayad's -- may just be deeper than that apparent at face value. :-). I am sure you know why, and how, at some level. Either way, confront me about it the next time you see me :-) ... it is something I felt that I realized some time ago -- a theory from this life, maybe?


    :-)

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  3. Sadia11/25/2005

    lets talk fafu,

    :)
    sadia

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